Wow, there’s like so many guys on here asking for help with their girlfriends. It’s so sweet and I secretly love/hate you all. 

Forever alone ~ 

*cries*

Okay. 

To the first anon that asked how he can cheer up his girlfriend. All I can say is to simply wait. 

I remember at the beginning of my last/first relationship I did this weird thing where when the conversation would get a little boring or repetitive I’d just leave my phone somewhere and go do something for a few hours or pretend I fell asleep. I believe I did it because I wanted to make sure we weren’t going to be one of those couples that had to spend every single moment together or talking to each other. I wanted to make sure we could deal with a couple hours of not talking, because that’s healthy. 

Also girls play little games without even realizing, so don’t go ahead and accuse her of playing them, she wont even realize. Basically you have to accept that girls feelings are weird and 90% of the time we don’t understand them and we do things without understanding why, it’s just natural. So basically just wait for her to text you. If she doesn’t reply to something, send her a message maybe an hour later, she might have read your message and then had to go do something and totally forgot, if again she doesn’t reply just wait until she messages you. I’m sure there will be a reason and you shouldn’t have anything to worry about. This is where she’s realizing the trust you have in her and so are you, vise versa. 

Second anon, I think you were having pretty much the same difficulty but she wasn’t feeling so happy? Maybe she just doesn’t know how to feel or express her feelings just yet. You’re only a week in and you have to remember that what made you guys best friends is what put you two together as a couple, so just be the same as you were before. Nothing has changed except for the fact you’ve decided to not be with anyone else. Let her know that if she needs someone to talk to,  you’re always going to be there for her, just like before but if she needs time to understand how she feels before she talks about it then you’re happy to wait for her. 

oh the other thing is, before you two were together she would go to you about absolutely anything, right? but now that you’re together she can’t go to you when it’s about the both of you. Don’t stress over that though. That doesn’t mean she thinks she’s made the wrong decision it just mean she may have doubts or something else, she’s probably just worried of hurting you. Trust me when I say it’s completely normal and healthy. Just be chill and don’t change anything from before. If you stay her best friend but be called her boyfriend then no matter what you will ALWAYS be her boyfriend even if in a couple of weeks she decides it doesn’t feel right.

I hope this helps. Don’t forget, we’re here for anything. Even if you just have to get something off your chest. 

- Cassandra <3 

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Anonymous asked: I'm too worried about my girlfriend. If she doesn't reply back to a text or doesn't want to do something with me on the weekend, I feel like she doesn't really like me or something. I don't want to lose this girl in my life because she's honestly so perfect and everything and I haven't met a girl like her before and I don't think I'll meet anyone new that's like her. I need help, I'm too obsessed. And also, what should I be doing in the first month of the relationship? It's been a week so far.

It’s only been a week, you need to calm down and ease up a little on yourself.

She may be busy, have no credit, perhaps she gets distracted.

When you next see her ask her how she truly feels, ask her if she sees this relationship going somewhere. Tell her how you feel about the situation and how you feel as if she’s being distant with you and how it’s making you feel.

As for what to do, do the normal boyfriend/girlfriend things. Hold her, be a friend for her, be there when she needs you, hang out with her and just be a wonderful guy/girl.

P.S. Said guy/girl cause you didn’t specify and I wasn’t too sure. :P

-Peter

Anonymous asked: My girlfriend last night told me that she didn't really feel heaps excited about us being in a relationship together. It's only been a week and we were best friends before that. I want her to feel at least happy about it but I don't know how to. I asked her if she wanted to hang out on the weekend and she just said 'probably'. I need help in kind of cheering her up about it, because this girl means so much to me and to lose her would be heartbreaking.

Talk to her about it, ask her what’s making her feel as if the relationship isn’t working out, talk things through and decide on how you two can make it better.

Show her how much she means to you (you should be doing this everyday regardless) and show her that being in a relationship with each other isn’t so bad.

If you wish to cheer her up, take her out to do something that you know she loves, make the day/night be eventful and one she will want to remember.

Just be there for her and prove to her that you will be a great boyfriend.

-Peter

Anonymous asked: I'm the girl that said i dont talk to the guy i like whos a grade older than me, and thanks for the advice, I just need to work on my confidence! And I talked to him for one night for a long time at this school event and I talk to him for like 2 min everyday after school hahahan (in my defense). And do guys care about age? Like since i'm only in 8th grade and hes in 9th would that make him see me as not girlfriend material?

You’re welcome, that’s good :)

And Unless he has a strict way of thinking towards relationships then it will be fine. You’re only 1 year younger than him at most so it isn’t a problem at all.

You just have to get closer to him and show him you would like a relationship. :)

-Peter

Uh, I want to late imput on the last anon asking about what to do with your girlfriend. So hopefully you read this, from a girls point of you, if you do let me know :) 

Okay, before you guys decided to become boyfriend and girlfriend there must be things that you two have in common, interests that you share? Songs, music, movies anything. And you both must have talked about hobbies. 

Not all girls are always up for the fancy every date is expensive and ‘thoughtful’ taste, don’t get me wrong after a while you kinda want to go out a lot and show off your other half, when you’re both comfortable enough and not afraid to make a fool of yourself infront of the other (cause trust me that’s always on a girls mind). 

Just stick to things like building forts in the lounge or bedroom, snuggling and watching movies, homemade pizza and fairy bread. Go out and see movies, go swimming or something fun but don’t always just make it the two of you, as much as you’re thinking ‘special’ sometimes it’s special to be able to hang out with a bunch of friends and just get on and have a great time, especially when she gets to hold your hand and turn around to hug you the whole time. 

As for the conversation part, don’t always feel like you have to talk all the time, because no matter how much you like them you can out talk someone and learn too much to fast, just ask about her life and growing up if you don’t already know. Ask for memories or stories and then when she tells you she’s had enough of talking take the time to tell her something important to you, a memory of something you find special or just something you don’t often tell people. 

I hope this help, do realize every relationship is different, whatever you do just don’t expect anything from her and just spend your days expressing how you feel because she’ll just do the same thing to you. Even more so if you do it first. 

- Cassandra <3 

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Anonymous asked: I recently got a girlfriend. We always text and talk at school and stuff but I don't know what else to do with her, like on the weekends and after school and such. What are some things we can do together? Also, I'm really bad with conversation topics. I'm always talking about the same kind of stuff, so what are some good topics for talking about?

I’m horrible at conversation myself, but perhaps ask her about her interests/hobbies, what she wants to do with her life, etc.

For activities, simply go out and see a movie, hang out at home, go to the beach. Anything the two of you will find exciting and entertaining.

-Peter

Anonymous asked: Well I have feelings for my best friend, she knows I like her. Even after I told her I had feelings for her she continues to stick by me and be my best friend and for that I love her. What I am asking is that whenever we aren't talking I feel as though I done something wrong to her. How can I get over the feeling to talk to her constantly.

You just need to realise that you haven’t done anything wrong. Tell yourself things are fine and eventually this feeling will pass.

After a few weeks/months/whatever you still feel this way, ask her and tell her the way you’re feeling about the situation.

-Peter

Anonymous asked: I like this one guy, but he's a grade older than me, so I never see him in school unless it's after school. He's also never on fb and I don't have his number? How should I get to talk to him more?

You like this guy, yet you’ve never/don’t talk to him? Weird..

Approach him one day after school, talk to him and ask for either his Facebook or his number so you can text him. Once you have either, just take it from there. :)

-Peter

Anonymous asked: ive been in a relationship with this boy for 4 months now and i just dont have any feelings towards him anymore, but i will feel super bad if i break up with him:( what do i do?

I know that it really sucks and stuff, but either way you’re going to feel terrible. 

Sometimes this stuff just happens, it’s life and it obviously wasn’t meant to be more than friendship. Just explain to him that you understand that it hurts but you don’t feel the same any more. Tell him that you can’t stand to hurt him any more than it would to keep it going because you value his friendship too much. 

He’s a guy so he may be hurt to the point he’ll get mad, maybe ignore you for a while or even try and make you jealous. If that happens you just have to realize you did the best thing for the both of you and eventually he’ll see that too. (Especially if he reacts this way because then he didn’t really love you anyway). 

- C <3