General Advice. Be Proud Of Who You Are.

Anonymous asked: Ever since last year I've felt like shit. I feel like I'm a failure at school. I feel like people are just pretending to like me and that they really say stuff behind my back about me. I've been cheated on and lead on twice in the duration of a year. I'm getting more and more unmotivated to do the things I love. I can't bring myself to motivate myself either, I just refuse to make things better for myself. What do I do? I hate how I feel and I hate myself.

First, the cheating and leading on has nothing to do with how you are, and what you’re like. You’ve just had a bit of bad luck and gotten guys/girls who are quite worthless if they treat another person like that.

That’s the thing though, you won’t get better if you refuse to help yourself. By the sound of it, what you feel is happening around you is only in your head, and you need to realise that. Once you do, things will start to pick up a little bit.

I know you hate how you feel, and you hate yourself for being like this, but you need to stop being so lazy, and stop feeling so down. You NEED to motivate yourself. Don’t say “Oh, I can’t” actually try, get your family or friends to help motivate you.

I know I’m being harsh, and I’m sorry for that, but you need to pick yourself up.

Don’t think you’re alone in feeling like this. Everyone, and I mean EVERYONE gets talked about behind their back. Even best friends do it to each other. People gossip, it’s normal, you need to realise that it’s a part of life, they may say bad things, they may say nice things, but unfortunately we can’t control that. If it’s bothering you that much, talk to your friends, let them know you’re in trouble with your state of mind, let them help.

As for school, once this all clears up, you can focus on your school work and that will pick right back up.

Again, I’m sorry if it’s not the comfort you were expecting, but you need to pick yourself up and get yourself out of this rut.

-Peter

Anonymous asked: lately i have just felt like nobody will ever really like me and that i will never meet a guy that likes me or get married or anything and it is just a really big let down for me

I know that feeling, I’ve been chasing after the same girl for over a year now.

I know it’s not the same situation, but I’ve felt as if I’ll never meet anyone, how can I when I can’t even get this one person? 

I went a little off-topic, sorry. I know it sucks to be alone, but just go on with your life, and enjoy it. You’ll eventually meet a guy, you’ll eventually find someone who loves you, and you’ll live happily with them. 

Don’t let yourself get down about this, lovely. Love, and feelings, and meeting people all take a vast amount of time. 

Anonymous asked: So there was this one guy that apparently said really nice things about me about a year ago and it made me feel so good about myself and like when my friend told me what he said i blushed and stuff, but anyways i have this thing where is a guy is nice to me and stuff i begin to like him sorta, well i sorta liked him when i got told and like sometimes in classes i still think about what he said but i think he would be over it cause it was like a year ago...

You’ll never know until you talk to him, love. For all you know, he may still have those feelings towards you. 

You should give it a shot. If you don’t, you’ll always wonder ‘what if’. Who knows, he may be a huge part of your life if you go for it. :)

Anonymous asked: Me and this girl hooked up at party, and we haven't talked since what should i do?

I’m assuming you really like her then? 

If you wish to talk to her, initiate a conversation with her, talk to her, and get closer. :)

It could be that she was only looking for a one night only thing.

-Peter

Anonymous asked: How do you get people to like if they hate you?

I know it sounds cliché, but you shouldn’t really change yourself to be what people want you to be. You should find people who like you for you.

You shouldn’t be looking to be friends with people who treat you like shit for who you are.

I’m sorry if it’s not what you wanted, but you shouldn’t change yourself at all.

-Peter